Resolutions are ridiculous to me. So much pressure to change all at once. Diet, exercise, no alcohol, wake up earlier, learn a new language etc. These are great goals but there is no realistic expectations of ourselves. You cannot change all at once!! I used to set a resolution and wouldn't even make it past January, then feel so guilty and shameful. I would berate myself and beat myself up, even more than usual.
What a shit start to the new year!
I stopped doing this to myself many years ago. It felt so much kinder to myself. However, I wasn't changing.
This was a huge problem and I felt stuck in the same toxic patterns with the same shit diet and feeling fat and disgusted in my appearance and not growing or releasing challenging beliefs.
I was so chronically sick and I was stuck that way for too long. Not knowing I could change let alone how to.
When I began my healing journey in 2020 I realised that these high expectations and all-or-nothing attitude was keeping me stuck, Do it perfectly or don't do it at all!
Letting go of the belief that perfection is real and attainable helped me to release those ridiculously high expectations of myself.
Now I resolve to be a bit better everyday!
Just a bit better in some way or another. Nothing major, no huge shifts in routine or habits, no need to push and punish myself. If I falter it is so much easier to try again the next day. No more waiting for New year, next month, next Monday!
Start today and keep starting again everyday.
Be kinder to yourself and accept who you are right now, know who you want to be and understand that change takes time.
You want to wake up earlier then start with 5 minutes. You want to eat better, then start with an extra fruit/veg portion, you want to love yourself more, then start by understanding who you are. Little teeny tiny baby steps and you will get there.
Here is a poem I wrote to release the frustration I felt about resolutions:
I hope you have a wonderful 2024.
Much love x